OK, I need some advice from my blogger friends who are experienced daters!
So, the other day, a married couple I'm friends with told me they had someone in mind for me. They gave a quick description and I indicated we could do a group/casual thing, just to meet. We all met at the local bowling alley, my friends, their 2 boys, me, and the guy. We'll call him RC.
RC and I arrived first and we chatted while we waited for our friends. He's a perfectly nice guy, but do you know what I mean when I say there was nothing there? It's not like he was a jerk or hideously unattractive, and yet, I just didn't feel a thing. And, the litmus test - could I picture myself kissing him? NO.
So, our friends arrived and we bowled a few games. We all had a good time bowling and it was very casual/laid back, as I had hoped. I had to sneak out early, to make it to another gathering.
My friend texted me that night, asking what I thought. I replied that RC "seemed like a nice guy," and didn't say anything more.
Fast forward to Monday, when my friend (who works with RC) texts me that it's RC's birthday on Tuesday. Why do I need to know this? I don't have this guy's number, email...anything. I texted back, "Um, ok?" Anyway, my friend wanted me to know that, just in case RC and I spoke on Tuesday. Then he said, "since he did ask for your number this morning."
So I replied that I thought he was nice, but wasn't sure it was a match. Watch out, here's where I messed up - then I said "I guess I could try a one on one." Now, in my defense, I had hoped my friend would ASK me if it's ok to pass along my number.
Cut to last night, when RC phoned me. The first call, he didn't leave a voicemail. The second call, he left a voicemail - wanting to get together for dinner sometime this week.
First question: Should my friend have asked me whether or not he could give this guy my number? Just curious.
Second question: I don't really want to go any further with this guy, but now I feel like I have to do a dinner/date. What are my options? I'm planning to call him back tonight...so don't worry, I'm not going to ignore/not respond. Do I go to dinner with him and then let him know there's no connection? Ugh, how do I get myself in these situations?
Taking advice...GO!
8 months ago
i think it would have been nice of the friend to ask permission to give your number. that said, i guess since they saw you having a nice time...and it was a mutual friend they trusted...they probably didn't think much of handing it out. Might pay to check in on that one for another time (assuming you're mad enough to let them try again...:))
ReplyDeletere dinner...well I'd say why not go. you might have a nice time. you will, if nothing else make a new friend with any luck. you don't know, he might feel the same and be feeling a bit pressured to make second contact. woman are so good at over analysing...who knows.
a nice dinner out with someone who's a nice guy? I'd take it.
Thanks, Susan! Appreciate your input...check the latest post for details on what went down. I'm not really mad at the friend, but do wish they would have asked/confirmed with me first.
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