Just off the top of my head, here are some things I hate about it:
1) If you want a somewhat reputable site (but still no guarantee that you'll meet the love of your life), you are required to PAY for it. And hey, I get it. They're providing a service. So, you must pay. But, at least when I pay my cable bill, I'm guaranteed I'll have a million cable channels/shows to watch. If the cable goes out...I call them and typically, they will credit you for the outage. With online dating...if you don't meet anyone...um, they have your money. And you're no better off.
2) I think I've said this before in another post. But let me say it again. Many people don't post pictures with their online dating profiles. This, is ridiculous. If I met you in a bar, at the coffee shop, or just out at Target - I'd see your face! Duh! So, to hide online is dumb. I don't even reply to people who don't have a profile pic.
2a) People post out of date, more flattering pics of themselves, that look nothing like they do now. OK, eventually, you might meet the person you're communicating with. Wouldn't it be best to post a current pic of yourself?
2b) Guys who post pics of their bare chests will not get responses from me. I don't even know how this even seems like a good idea?!?! I'm certainly not posting pics of me in my sports bra...just so they can see "the goods." What's wrong with posting a pic of yourself, fully clothed, and looking good?
3) Guys who don't seem to READ my profile. I specifically select my religious denomination on my profile. To take it a step further, I talk about my faith in my profile description. I don't go into crazy detail or anything, but still. It's clear when you read my profile that I'm looking for someone who shares a belief in God. And yet, that doesn't stop every single guy who has selected "non-religious" or "atheist" as their religion, from contacting me and wanting to get together. They clearly aren't even reading my profile! Duh! I have no problem with anyone being non-religious or atheist, but it's not what I'm looking for in a potential mate. I even had a guy message me saying, "I don't know how religious you are, but I'm not really into that." Um, ok...
4) OMG - the lame messages must stop! I'm only "using" one free site right now and after the last few messages I received, I will be signing off. (Side note: I abhor profiles and/or messages with poor grammar and spelling. Hoping my "dream" guy can spell and speak properly.) I find there are two types of messages with these sites.
Message #1: "How's it going?" or "Nice pic." And then, that's it. I guess I'd prefer a bit more "meat" to the message...ya know, since we don't know each other? Yes, I could respond, "It's going well." And then where would we be?
Message #2: OK, I'm not even going to type what these messages are, because they are DIRTY! OMG - so horrible. I don't even know how to describe them, but I'd say I've gotten maybe 5 horrifically dirty, naughty messages. One of which I received over the weekend. ICK. I'm sure they don't expect a reply, but seriously? What is the point? So disgusting and unnecessary.
I could go on and on, but I don't want to bore you TOO much. Online dating rarely gives me hope that I'll meet someone, but actually makes me feel like there are even more jerks/losers/weirdos out there - which is depressing.
2b) Guys who post pics of their bare chests will not get responses from me. I don't even know how this even seems like a good idea?!?! I'm certainly not posting pics of me in my sports bra...just so they can see "the goods." What's wrong with posting a pic of yourself, fully clothed, and looking good?
3) Guys who don't seem to READ my profile. I specifically select my religious denomination on my profile. To take it a step further, I talk about my faith in my profile description. I don't go into crazy detail or anything, but still. It's clear when you read my profile that I'm looking for someone who shares a belief in God. And yet, that doesn't stop every single guy who has selected "non-religious" or "atheist" as their religion, from contacting me and wanting to get together. They clearly aren't even reading my profile! Duh! I have no problem with anyone being non-religious or atheist, but it's not what I'm looking for in a potential mate. I even had a guy message me saying, "I don't know how religious you are, but I'm not really into that." Um, ok...
4) OMG - the lame messages must stop! I'm only "using" one free site right now and after the last few messages I received, I will be signing off. (Side note: I abhor profiles and/or messages with poor grammar and spelling. Hoping my "dream" guy can spell and speak properly.) I find there are two types of messages with these sites.
Message #1: "How's it going?" or "Nice pic." And then, that's it. I guess I'd prefer a bit more "meat" to the message...ya know, since we don't know each other? Yes, I could respond, "It's going well." And then where would we be?
Message #2: OK, I'm not even going to type what these messages are, because they are DIRTY! OMG - so horrible. I don't even know how to describe them, but I'd say I've gotten maybe 5 horrifically dirty, naughty messages. One of which I received over the weekend. ICK. I'm sure they don't expect a reply, but seriously? What is the point? So disgusting and unnecessary.
I could go on and on, but I don't want to bore you TOO much. Online dating rarely gives me hope that I'll meet someone, but actually makes me feel like there are even more jerks/losers/weirdos out there - which is depressing.
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