Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Guess who I heard from?

So, I get home last night and notice I have an FB message from...PB.

First of all, let's just note that I didn't even get excited. I mean, I was just sort of indifferent. The message was basically, "Hey SABI, I'm going to be back in town next weekend and was hoping to have dinner with you and your friends. I'll be in touch as it gets closer. Hope all is well!"

Now, let's just recall that the last contact with him was early November. He's got my phone number and we're FB friends...so there's been opportunity for even platonic messaging. But, there's been nothing.

So, I guess I don't really care that he'll be in town and wants to have dinner. I'm not mad or anything, but I'm also not too psyched to be the girl he leads on (again) when he's in town. It's just too confusing.

Add to that that I already have plans next weekend - which are out of town - and it looks like I'll be able to avoid the whole thing!

Thoughts? Would any of you consider changing your plans in order to see him? (I'm not going to do that...but just curious.)

Thursday, February 9, 2012

The grass is always greener...

It's so easy for me to get caught up in all the things I think are going wrong in my life. And then I start looking at everyone around me, who seemingly have the things I don't, and assume life is a bowl of cherries for them.

I had a little "aha" moment last weekend. I was talking with a friend (she & her hubby have a pretty good life going, and it would be easy to assume all is fab). Anyway, we were talking about her husband and she was saying he wasn't thrilled with his job or where he was at in life (happy with her, but not his career & social life). Anyway, I look at him and think, "You're making great money, you have a solid job, you love your wife...life is grand." But HE'S in the situation and still not fully happy.

While I wasn't happy to hear that he's feeling that way, I will say it gave me some much needed perspective. Just because I'm not married and don't have children (two things I really want) doesn't mean there aren't some pretty good things happening in my life.

We all have areas of our lives that aren't going the way we hoped or planned. It doesn't matter who has what, everyone's got their thing that bums them out. It's not like I didn't know this...but this was a good reminder.

Now, don't worry, I haven't turned into Sally Sunshine. But, I'm doing my best to enter 2012 with positivity and a better outlook. Last year was a such a mess, and this year can only get better!

Wednesday, February 8, 2012

New Year, New Hope?

I'm behind on posts...and actually feel like I've got about 4-5 posts I could do, if I had time! Anyway, I'll get to those soon.

Today's post is all about positivity. I just celebrated a birthday last weekend. And, while last year's birthday (being so close to my dad's passing) was pretty much sucky, this year was fab. I wasn't really dreading it, even though I do get a bit down when a year passes with no change in my single status...

I slept in, awoke to wonderful posts on my FB page, and a text from family telling me to enjoy my massage appointment they'd made for me at a local spa. Very nice. Not to mention the countless lunches/dinners/cards & gifts throughout the days surrounding my bday.

I went out the night of my birthday and again the next night - had a blast both times! Anyway, it was a few days filled with fun, laughing, and good friends.

So far, 2012 is off to a great start! I'm making some positive financial changes, angling to make changes in my job, and training for another marathon (even ran a 20 miler over the weekend).

Now, I know I need to figure something out as far as dating goes, but I haven't got any bright ideas on that yet. I am sick of blind dates, don't particularly like online, and most everyone I know is married. So...I'm letting that marinate for now.

I feel very blessed to have the best friends on the planet and to have had a wonderful bday. It gives me hope that this could be a really great year.