Monday, November 7, 2011

I think that's all there is...

Well, I did shoot "PB" a quick text last Wednesday, just asking if he made it home, etc. He replied, but never initiated anything further.

So, last night, I decided to send him another quick text, about a race I'd done this weekend. He replied fairly quick, but again, that was it.

I don't want to get into, "It's his turn to make a move," blah blah blah...but...

I do feel like I've made some efforts (even though it's just little texts) and maybe he would have to initiate something at this point. Right?

The last thing I want is to be chasing him and driving him nuts.

While I'm glad to have met him, and we did indeed have fun...it's almost a bit of a let down. I mean, I never meet guys like him where I live. NEVER. So, to meet one that I'm attracted to, like, and have fun with...and he doesn't live anywhere near me? Well...it sucks a little bit.

It's like having this carrot dangled in front of you and then having it snatched away...while the person dangling it laughs an evil laugh, "Mwahhahahahaha!!!"

Also, it's not like I thought this guy was the one or whatever. But, he had potential...and I would have enjoyed getting to know him better - to see if things could go anywhere.

Back to square one, I guess...

PS This is exactly why I don't get "excited" anymore about dating. It's much easier for me to keep my cool and take things as they come. Because, when I used to get my hopes up...the letdown was all the more upsetting.

Wednesday, November 2, 2011

What would you do?

OK, so my cute date from the weekend - we'll call him "PB," is now back home...which is nearly 1,000 miles from where I live.

We had dinner at my friend's house Monday night, which was good. And then he drove me home and walked me to my door. I honestly felt like neither of us knew what to say. I mean, clearly there is interest on both sides...otherwise, why spend time alone together and go on dates - when you're only in town a few days?

So, he said something about being friends on Facebook and then kissed me on the cheek and gave me a hug (he's a great hugger, by the way). I told him it was great to meet him and that I had fun.

Now, I already said I'm fine if what it was is what it was. Really, I am. I mean, it sucks in the sense that I finally met someone who has a lot of the things I look for, and he lives far away. But, I can appreciate it as it is.

But I also get the sense that he was attracted to me...and wonder if he would be interested in something more?

So now I'm just not sure if there is really anything I should do next. I mean, should I text/call him, just to say hi? Or should I wait and see if he makes any contact? Or should I just acknowledge that it was a little fling and be done with it?

THIS is the part of dating that I absolutely abhor. I hate the wondering and uncertainty. If he lived here...or even an hour away, I wouldn't have any of these questions. I'd know that I could text/call him and it wouldn't be weird. I assume we'd have gone out on more dates.

But, he doesn't live here...so I'm in a quandary about what to do. So, I open it up to my readers. Guide me!!!