Friday, March 14, 2014

Ugh...WHY?

Well, I told you about a potential set up coming up.  I don't have much of an update, but here goes...

So, there was a bit more texting after that post, but not much.  And then nothing.  One of the setter uppers talked to him and he said, "She hasn't texted since Wednesday..."  The woman said, "Um, if a girl isn't texting you, she's expecting you to call!"  I don't even know this lady, but she is correct.  Even after her telling him that, he hasn't called.

Like I said, I'm fine if we do or don't go out.  However, I'd like to have that decision made sooner, rather than later.

I was told he was "not short."  And, based on the picture I saw, I guess I pictured him as a pretty good sized guy.

So, he and I haven't texted since late February.  Cut to tonight.  I was at an event and talking to someone, when he comes up to me and says, "Are you X?  I'm WV."  OMG.  I was totally caught off guard.  It's great that he came up and introduced himself, but I was a bit unprepared for running into him so randomly.

He is short.  Shorter than me.  Significantly shorter.  Ugh.  I did have heels on, but they weren't that high...and he'd still be shorter than me if I'd worn flats.  So disappointing.

I realize there is MUCH more to a person than their height.  I also realize that some men maybe don't want to date me, because of my height.  And I'm fine with that.  I get it.  But this is a very hard thing for me to let go of/ignore.  It's part of what attracts me to a guy.  And I hate being taller or towering over him.

Anyway, I texted my friend who is involved with the setup and she said that the other setter upper is very short.  So, yeah, this guy probably does seem tall to her.  Wish I'd known this before.  My answer about the setup may have been different.  I know that sounds bad, but that's just how I feel.

I didn't stick around to talk to him afterward, because he was working the event (I think) and I hadn't planned to stay too long.

So, I have no clue what will happen now.  I'm trying to keep an open mind and be open to still going on a date with him, if that's what happens.  But really, my tiny scrap of hope for this setup is somewhat gone.

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Excellent read!

I stumbled onto this book on Amazon a few weeks ago.  It's a quick read and I found it to be very therapeutic.  I highly recommend! 

Sara Eckel also has a website, which is also pretty great. 

In this time of complete frustration with my single-ness, this book gave me a boost.  It doesn't promise to give you tools on HOW to find your mate, but it completely calls out every single stupid thing anyone has ever said to you about your being single. 

And that, my friends, is total validation.  I've always known other people are hearing the same stupid comments I am, but since I have next to zero single friends, it's easy for me to feel like I'm the ONLY one hearing this stuff. 

Thank you, Sara, for giving me a much needed boost and validating all the frustration I'm feeling.